I would like to believe that I do not judge others but I am afraid this is one of my worst self acclaimed attribute. It is not desirable. It is not intentional and yet I find myself in a constant battle of criticism. Criticism of self and of others. I repent trying to rid myself of such a sin yet I find myself doing it. I was trained to critique. It was the moment of the week to see each others work in front of a classroom alongside your own latest creation for the purpose of “critiquing” in college. It takes a certain etiquette to do so elegantly. One should not say only negative things but one should focus on the positives as well. I have learned that the hamburger effect is best used in critiquing where one points out the positive (ie the bread) then the negatives (ie the meat) then finishes with a positive. Today I went against what I know how to do. I blotted all the negatives first then ended with the positives. Result = no bueno! People do not receive criticism well when you start with a negative because that automatically puts them on the defense. I apologize to the one I did this to today. It was not right of me. I feel bad when I hurt others. I do not want to see someone I love hurt nor do I enjoy seeing anyone hurt. I am a humanitarian in that respect.
I found out today that I am bias regarding a situation where my dislike is motivated as a result of the pain someone has caused a loved one. I can’t stand this person for what they did to the person I love and it makes me hurt. It is not right to judge others as we don’t know what their intentions are. We should give them the benefit of the doubt. I should give them the benefit of the doubt and I will try. It will not be easy because injustice boils my blood.
Has anyone ever felt that way?
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